the candid files

This post is dedicated to my aunt Jackie, because without her nagging I would never get around to posting. She keeps wanting to know what it’s like to be married, which I think is strange since she’s been married herself for something like 24 years…23 years…? I wasn’t there (at their wedding). But anyway, for her sake I will let you all in to the secrets of married life.

Basically it’s a case of learning how to live with another person, and only one other person (at least for a while…I have to put in an aside: As soon as the pastor pronounces you man and wife, people start asking you when you’re going to have babies. Constantly. Don’t get me wrong, I love babies. And now that I’m married I’m slightly more interested in the idea. But really, when one has been married for a month – yes, a month today! – one has barely begun to figure out the basics of how to make babies, let alone how to parent them. I’m sorry, was that too blunt?)

There are the issues of who makes the coffee (Peter) and who does the laundry (me) and who cooks dinner (both) and who holds the remote (Peter because I’m too lazy to reach) and who takes care of anything remotely technical (guess who…although I believe I was the one to figure out how to set the clock on the microwave).

Mostly though, being married is awesome. It’s lovely to come home from work to my husband (since he always beats me home) and it’s fun to cook dinner together, to work at creating and keeping a home. It’s amazing to have no barriers to knowing a person as well as possible. I didn’t even realize that all the mental barriers that I had before the wedding existed. It takes some effort to let go of them. But it’s worth it. I also must add that it’s really amazing to wake up beside the person you love most, even taking into account morning breath!

I will post some wedding pictures very soon once I can access them. Cheers!